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]]>This individual is very invested in the status quo and has a stake in continuity. Their current point of view is threatened by any change.
You need to demonstrate that stonewalling, or attempting to derail the change, will only meet with their defeat. Help them appreciate that it’s better to be part of the future than be left in the past.
Do this by showing them that:
By supporting the change, they have some say in the future. The change will happen, and they’re better off involved.
The Wheeler-Dealer is looking to professionally gain from the initiative. They are showing simple resistance, but rather, are primarily interested in extracting some type of quid pro quo for supporting your efforts.
For example, the VP of HR ingeniously claims that it would take months to recruit the extra accounting personnel needed to upgrade your financial systems. But, she might contend, if only you could release additional funding to upgrade her department’s reporting systems, it would speed up the process.
The quid pro quo may be of mutual benefit, and you can consider complying and co-opt their resistance.
If it’s pure ransom, though, then you may need to recruit the assistance of your CEO or Division leader and work around this mountainous island. Put the onus on these leaders, since you’ve hit a roadblock, by intimating that only they can solve the problem.
“I’ve prepared the way for implementation but have encountered one roadblock. It’s one that will require your direct clout to remove, since it’s an issue that involves corporate priorities and funding set from your office.”
This colleague believes he or she is instrumental in helping the company to attain and maintain its standing. Success has gone to the Prima Donna’s head.
The most common culprits are the best-performing salesperson, or the developer of the company’s IP or technology. They will invariably point out why your ideas are problematic.
The best defense is to discuss the problematic issues in a group setting (e.g., executive team meeting), where you can marshal the support of others. Just be sure that you don’t publicly humiliate the Prima Donna. If humiliated, they will unleash their fury (directly or behind your back) to protect and restore their wounded self-esteem.
Be careful that the Prima Donna doesn’t play their trump card. They will argue that they’ve developed priceless expertise over the years. And are far more invested in the company than you, the consultant. This will cause others, including the CEO, to react with caution and potentially spend inordinate amounts of time second-guessing your ideas or developing defensive measures – just in case your initiatives are faulty.
The Prima Donna’s goal is to show intellectual prowess, and thereby enhance their ‘key to the business’ position. Ironically, in spite of their successes, they are insecure.
So, what tactics should you employ?
Above all, don’t get in a fight; just allow the logic of your position to be embraced by others.
The passive-aggressive person will use many of the same tactics of the Prima Donna. They will, however, cloak their criticism under the guise of, supposedly looking out for the best interests of the organization. It’s hard to pin anything on them because they don’t come at you head-on.
The major difference (and challenge) with dealing with them is that, even after you think you’ve resolved their concerns, and received the go-ahead for your endeavors, the passive-aggressive colleague will invariably “forget” to follow through with their end of the deal.
“We’ve been buried and simply haven’t had the time to follow through – We’ll hop right on it.”
Meanwhile, another three weeks go by without forward movement on the project or program.
With the passive-aggressive person, you’ll need to
For example, you might say, “You agreed to provide us with X by last Friday. There appears to be a problem that we can’t resolve. Let’s discuss this with your (or our) boss.” They will never admit that they have passively resisted, but they will need to learn that they can’t maneuver around you with the purpose of undermining you. They hate being cornered, but cornering them is a must.
As mentioned earlier, the major source of resistance will generally come from people who are simply worried. They’re not toxic colleagues, they’re just anxious about any change, even positive change.
Take care not to ignore the worriers as they will easily be swayed by anyone who taps into and exploits their anxiety.
Therefore, the best defense is a great offense.
Most people are reassured simply by presenting them with a coherent plan. They just want to know that the person leading the charge has some idea where he is headed.
Keep folks involved by sharing:
Obviously, dealing with difficult people is a complex process, especially toxic colleagues, but if you follow these suggestions, you’ll make your life much, much easier.
And, remember sometimes you need to
“… float like a butterfly and sting like a bee,” Muhammad Ali.
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